[Cro Dreoilin] "Shoulds"

[Katie Murphy]

I like what Sue said about this. I think that doing something out of
obligation isn't as meaningful as doing something because you WANT to.

--Katie

On Sun, Nov 20, 2011 at 3:21 PM, sue blackmore <sblackmore1966 at gmail.com>wrote:

> It has been said that the best reason to do anything is because we want
> to. So we say please, step out of our comfort zone and venerate our gods
> not because we should or its polite or the gods need it but because we want
> to.
> On Nov 20, 2011 3:08 PM, "Charlotte Blackwood" <
> charlotte.blackwood at gmail.com> wrote:
>
>> You are so cool :)  Thanks for that email :)
>>
>> On 11/20/11, Kelley Forbes <forbesk at astronomytower.net> wrote:
>> > One interesting thing this topic of "needs" has me thinking about is the
>> > place that "shoulds" have in our religion.
>> >
>> > In a values-based aesthetic, there are no independent "should" actions
>> > or rules; there are no "thou shalts" or "thou shalt nots". Every time
>> > you think of yourself as "having to" or "must" or "should do", then you
>> > should be able to complete the phrase "because it will ____".
>> >
>> >
>> > "I should open the door, because it is hospitable to do so."
>> >
>> > "I should say 'please', because I am acknowledging the right of the
>> > person to say no, and that builds independence and community."
>> >
>> > "I should step out of my comfort zone, because it is courageous."
>> >
>> >
>> > If you catch yourself having a bunch of "should" thoughts and not being
>> > able to complete that sentence, then you need to ask yourself what
>> > ethics you are caring around with you that are someone else's rules,
>> > most likely picked up from our decidedly moral-based culture.
>> >
>> >
>> > -- Kelley.
>> >
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