[Cro Dreoilin] "Shoulds"

[Charlotte Blackwood]

You are so cool :)  Thanks for that email :)

On 11/20/11, Kelley Forbes <forbesk at astronomytower.net> wrote:
> One interesting thing this topic of "needs" has me thinking about is the
> place that "shoulds" have in our religion.
>
> In a values-based aesthetic, there are no independent "should" actions
> or rules; there are no "thou shalts" or "thou shalt nots". Every time
> you think of yourself as "having to" or "must" or "should do", then you
> should be able to complete the phrase "because it will ____".
>
>
> "I should open the door, because it is hospitable to do so."
>
> "I should say 'please', because I am acknowledging the right of the
> person to say no, and that builds independence and community."
>
> "I should step out of my comfort zone, because it is courageous."
>
>
> If you catch yourself having a bunch of "should" thoughts and not being
> able to complete that sentence, then you need to ask yourself what
> ethics you are caring around with you that are someone else's rules,
> most likely picked up from our decidedly moral-based culture.
>
>
> -- Kelley.
>
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