[Cro Dreoilin] "Shoulds"

[Kelley Forbes]

One interesting thing this topic of "needs" has me thinking about is the 
place that "shoulds" have in our religion.

In a values-based aesthetic, there are no independent "should" actions 
or rules; there are no "thou shalts" or "thou shalt nots". Every time 
you think of yourself as "having to" or "must" or "should do", then you 
should be able to complete the phrase "because it will ____".


"I should open the door, because it is hospitable to do so."

"I should say 'please', because I am acknowledging the right of the 
person to say no, and that builds independence and community."

"I should step out of my comfort zone, because it is courageous."


If you catch yourself having a bunch of "should" thoughts and not being 
able to complete that sentence, then you need to ask yourself what 
ethics you are caring around with you that are someone else's rules, 
most likely picked up from our decidedly moral-based culture.


-- Kelley.